Episode 50: Stacy Heller Talks Breaking Free of Career “Shoulds”

Professional connector and host of the show “Don’t Ask Me to Talk,” Stacy Heller, shares great insights during a conversation about how parental and societal influences and “you shoulds” can have an outsized impact on our careers as well as how we can get out of the box we often put ourselves into when it comes to our career choices.

Stacy also shares about her career journey and lessons learned, including learning to trust your intuition and revisiting childhood to recall what you like to do. The show concludes with the weekly “Reignition Recommendation” career tip.

Show Notes:

[00:25] Welcome to Reigniting You® where we talk all things career transition for those age 40+. Great to be here with you today and our producer, Eric.

[02:21] Welcome back to Reigniting You® the show that focuses on all aspects of making mid-late career transitions.

[02:56] Excited to introduce today’s guest, Stacy Heller. Welcome to the show!

[03:49] Lisa asks Stacy to share her career path – failed out of college and married young; volunteer work and connections while raising kids culminated into Stacy Connects.

[05:16] What would you say is a lesson or two that really stands out? Stacy – learned to embrace gut; going back to being a kid and figuring out what makes sense; really listening to what I like to do.

[07:03] When it comes to trusting your gut, is that something that’s always come naturally to you or something you’ve had to develop over time? Stacy – both – was an old soul as a kid; started trusting it and exercising it as a muscle.

[08:16] What was particularly helpful that got you through times of change and transition? Stacy – husband being supportive; setting simple goals; ask for help.

[14:47] Visit https://yournewaspect.com to sign up for career tips and take a free Career Transition Readiness Quiz or to contact Lisa. Go to Services/Group Programs to check out her upcoming workshop on September 28 on making encore career transitions.

[15:20] What did you say when you were a kid when asked what you wanted to be when you grew up? What did you day and how do you think your perspective changed over the years? Stacy – a lot of art influence in family; remember wanting to be discovered.

[16:44] Have you thought about where that comes from – that desire to be seen? Stacy – not surprising; didn’t have confidence to be in front of things and be myself.

[17:47] How do you think societal and/or family pressure impacts our career choices and decisions? Stacy – doing what I should wasn’t right for me; had a lot of growing up to do; different philosophy in parents’ generation – kept me stagnant longer than it should have.

[20:25] What do you think people can do to minimize the “shoulds” when contemplating a career change in balance with the need to earn an income? Stacy – there’s pride in providing for your family; don’t have be stuck and martyr; maybe get a job until you can find your career; take a calculated risk.

[22:27] How can those seeking a different career broaden their thinking in terms of what’s possible and expand the “box” they may have put themselves into? Stacy – get to hit reset and get to learn; curiosity can come back at 50 – see what you have the potential to do.

[24:23] How can people find you? Stacy – shows on Tuesdays at 3:00; website; social media.

[25:19] Reignition Recommendation – take advantage of online learning.

[26:22] A reminder to visit https://yournewaspect.com to sign up for career tips and take a free Career Transition Readiness Quiz or to contact Lisa. Go to Services/Group Programs to check out her upcoming workshop focused on pursuing encore careers.

[27:12] Join us next week when it’s time once again for our monthly Best Job/Worst Job/First Job episode when I’ll share listener stories and career news. As a reminder, you can share your story by email or leave a voicemail at 360-436-6496 to share it over audio.

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